My intent of this entry is not to be "snarky". I just wanted to share, as a mother, what I was thinking when I went to get Laurel on Friday afternoon...December, 14, 2012.
I can't even feel the steering wheel of my car. I think I am a little light headed. What am I supposed to tell Laurel? God, I wish Ching was picking her up.
(I wasn't intending on getting Laurel earlier than 5:30 but Rachel needed to go to the doctor, unexpectedly at 3:00. Ching sent me an e-mail around noon, wanting me to get Laurel right after the appointment because he wanted her close. Prior to his e-mailed request, I had no idea what had happened in Connecticut. As I read the initial reports, I was beyond devastated. I knew of Sandy Hook--this community was incredibly similar to where my family lives now. And, Connecticut...I consider Connecticut my third home, after my present state (MA) and my home state (ME). Connecticut was a state I got my secondary education. It was a time and a place that I would never trade. And then the age of the children...so close to Laurel.)
How am I supposed to explain this to her? Oh God, I hope she doesn't know all ready. I will assume that she doesn't know. "Laurel--some people are shitty. It ranges for small stuff--you know those girls that don't want to include everyone? Then there are those that are bat shit crazy where you don't know why they did what they did".
I don't want to answer her questions with "I don't know." I don't want her to know that I never knew anything like this when I was her age.
The worse memory I had was at 8 when President Reagan was shot. I remember thinking "Who is in charge?" But other than that, it seemed okay. As a child, I understood that the President was targeted because he was the President. I wasn't (the President)...so I would be fine. No one was out to get me. But this young man went to an elementary school to shoot young kids. I don't want Laurel to feel like a target.
She is startled by her shadow. I don't want to tell her what happened in that school. After I tell her, she will pee her pants before she will walk into the hallway alone to the school bathroom. She will never sleep in her own bed.
I think I am getting blisters gripping the steering wheel. I will need to tell her. I probably shouldn't use the word "shitty"
Post Script: As of Saturday night, Laurel still doesn't know. But we need to tell her because I don't want her to find out the partial truth on the playground. Tonight we learned that the children who died were in the first grade. I saw my husband cry for the first time. I have never seen him cry. Tonight, I look at Laurel and try to absorb who she is today because what we have to tell her tomorrow may change her a little bit.
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