Holy crap...another broad with a crazy opinion! Another batch of mini muffins needs to be sent! (At first I felt bad about using the word "broad" but in this day and age of reality crap TV and Lindsey Lohan, I don't think it's a big deal. And it's fun to say. If you are unsure how my use of the word started, please refer to entry from March 11 referring to another broad and a gift of muffins.)
Okay, (gather, deep breaths..no need to rush), in a current article on MSNBC, Susan Patton is a past graduate of Princeton (1977). With the recent debate about leaning in and not standing up for yourself, she felt that there is an issue that wasn't being addressed. The issue is that the undergrad women of Princeton need to find their future husband...while at Princeton. So as they are thinking about registering for classes, internships, they also need to be on the look out for a life long spouse. Her theory revolves around the intellect of each Princeton woman needs to be matched up with at least an intellectual match. Ms. Patton thinks that these women will meet smart men after they graduate. But not as plentiful at that Princeton pool. So there is no time a wastin'!
This strikes a cord with me because when I graduated from UConn back in 1994, I felt like a failure because I was leaving without a boyfriend. Nearing graduation, I wasn't even getting to the spouse level. I just wanted a date. When I left my small hometown in Maine back in 1990 for college, I did have this grandiose idea that I was going to get an education and my future husband. I thought this was how it happened. Because of this thought, I didn't consider many men (you know they were flocking to me) because I was constantly sizing them up in my mind for marriage material. I probably missed out on a lot of nice guys.
I was 18 when I started sizing up men for marriage! I was a child...looking for another child to marry. What I thought was important then in a life long mate, is very different than what I eventually committed to. Also, holy shit...imagine what type of fru-fru gown I would have chosen back in 1994...complete with huge shoulder pads and a veil attached to a headband.
When I was in my early 20's, I wasted a lot of time trying to pair up with someone. I wished I had focused more attention to travelling, studying harder, taking the risk of buying my own place and finding things that were fun. I wished I had enjoyed the solitude a little bit more. Of course, I do realize that is easy for me to say now knowing that I have Beep and Blare snuggled in their beds and Ching prepping a power point presentation for a meeting.
Speaking of CCW, I wonder what Ms. Patton would think? I interpret her theory as women who are Ivy, get Ivy prospects and above? So where does that leave the public school crowd...people like me? I think she would be pissed that I strayed outside of my (public) class and landed an Ivy man.
I hope these women respect a fellow alum but don't take her suggestion seriously. And all the men on campus...they are hoping the same.
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