The honeymoon period lasts about 3 months..shorter if someone gains a few or stops shaving their legs.

The subject is same sex marriage..my reaction is the same regardless if you are gay and in a relationship, or straight and in a relationship.  For me, it is not about being liberal or conservative.  It is not religious issue with me.  My question comes from me being a (close to) middle aged married woman.  You exclaim that you want to get married?  My answer will always be "are you sure about that?"  (There is a lovely young couple in the outskirts of Newton that just sent the Wangs a "Save the Date" card that are now saying WTF?)

I have heard serious couples talking about marriage like it is the final step.  Final step, to me, is not marriage.  (To me, final step would be death...but that is just me.)  Final step gives me the impression that it gets easier.  Marriage does not.  Theoretically, you are all in when married..in reality, half cannot.  Some try but some bail after 72 days.

Do you think (your relationship is) going to get easier? I love hearing engaged couples talk about separate money accounts.  (Bite the bullet, have the money fight and invest in a spreadsheet.)  Going to allot your own space? (Just let it go, it's not going to happen.)  Didn't like the inlaws at the wedding? This is a look into your future.  This is what every major holiday will be like and it will only get better once you have kids.

You know, forever is a long time.  When I was 31 and getting married..I had no idea of what two years of marriage would feel like, let alone 50.  The honeymoon period lasts about 3 months...shorter if someone gains a few or stops shaving their legs. Even shorter when you walk in the bathroom and realize that someone occupied it 30 seconds earlier.

There is no day that is equal--there is no 50/50.  Some days I give more and some days, Ching gives more..and we accept this.  We work at it and it is just not about the bad days or weeks..maybe there is a year hidden in there too.   When we got married, Ching and I looked at it as a project and we were a team.

There was a movie from the late 1980's called War of the Roses.  The line spoken (from Barbara Rose)
"When you eat, when you sleep..I just want to smash your face in.."
When you get married..even though you don't think so...there will be (several times) when you want to smash too..

Regardless..I am lucky to have him..I am lucky to be a part of the team..I am lucky to have the choice..the choice and right to be married..and that, my friends is what it is about...